Life Changes

Since March 20th I've gone through a few major life changes. I got married and that's a big thing. I also moved to a different state without knowing anyone but my husband. I am very fortunate for the people who have taken me under their wings and grown into friends. It's those friends that I want to keep around. My wonderful husband is also being deployed come september, so I will have to learn to go through life for a year without him by my side. Most of my friends understand this hard time in my life and are there for me. I am so very thankful for these friends. I hope they know who they are and hopefully understand how much they mean to me!
But it's those friends who are having a hard time understanding these life changes that frustrate me. I thought I knew these people and they'd be there for me, regardless that I now life 800 miles away from seattle. I guess I didn't know them as well as I thought.

These life changes however have made me see things a little clearer. The friends that I thought I wouldn't be close with again are reoccurring in my life and I love it. I guess I need to re-define close friends. I knew these people were close to me at a certain time in my life, but they had faded away. Now that we are in similar parts of our life, we can relate and it's wonderful. I am rejoicing in it.

My in-laws have told me that you lose friends at 2 times in your life. Once when you get married because your 'single' friends can't comprehend the new priorities in life. The second is when you have children because its the same 'single' friends ( if they are still around ) and the married friends that don't have kids yet, that don't understand the same thing. Priorities.

So I am decided this:
I am not going to feel bad for spending every waking moment with my husband. He is my best friend. He loves me for who I am and wants to make my life better, not worse. He is there for me in my time of need. He is an amazing person and I am not going to be punished for spending time with him.

On a much happier and positive note . . .

In the time that he's been home we haven't had much down time. He arrived home on Monday afternoon and we had to get up early Tuesday morning to be back at the unit for his SRP! The SRP are like medical days. They get shots, update their folders, talk financial and what not.
I am involved in the FRG, Family Readiness Group, for the unit so we sell concessions and organize events for soldiers and families, deployed or not. Every drill weekend, we do concessions and get to meet the soldiers so they know who we are and what we do and stand for. We did concessions for the SRP both Tuesday and wednesday ALL DAY LONG. We set up at 6:30 because first formation was at 7 and we didn't leave each day till around 5:30 after final formation to be dismissed. We sold pizza ( lots of it ) and made sure the soldiers were updated on our paperwork to contact families. It's tiring to do that. Thursday morning we had to be there early as well because they had other classes they had to sit through. That morning wasn't quite as long, but I am sick of being at the unit. At least we got to sleep in this morning, but I had to meet Rachel, the FRG leader, at the Shrine to make sure the Yellow Ribbon stuff was getting taken care of. Yellow Ribbon is an event that the FRG SHOULDN'T have had to put on but there was a HUGE miscommunication, so now we got stuck with doing it. And by we, I mean Rachel, myself and a few others. It's meant to get families ready for deployment and what life will be like, what to expect and how to get by. I'm looking forward to it. I am also looking forward to it being done! :) It's been harder and more time consuming that I thought it'd be.
Its usually a 7 part series, and parts 3 and 4 are rumored to be in SEATTLE!! L :) that'd be freakin awesome!
I got to go to LA for a weekend for a training on how the FRG should run. It was very informative, but the best part was getting to go to the ocean. I was craving the ocean noise and the cool touch of the water! It was great. I'll be sure to put up pictures sooner than later.